How often, when we see a young couple, we ask ourselves: "what do they have in common?". Why are they together? A tall, stately man and a gray, no-no-notice girl, or a beautiful, well-groomed lady and a small, plump companion. But, nevertheless, they are together for many years, live, soul to soul and do not notice the puzzled looks of passers-by. About such a relationship you can say "love of evil," she does not see the flaws of the second half.
Love is evil - you will love and ...
Practice has proved that anyone can be the object of love, even the same notorious goat from the well-known proverb. According to statistics, most married couples disintegrate after one of the spouses suddenly begins to understand that his half is not so perfect. Passes a crazy and all-consuming passion, and with it a sick imagination and beloved turns from a white swan into an ugly duckling. Begin to irritate all of his habits, features of appearance and character.
Scientists of one of the universities in London asked the question: why the first months (years) lovers blindly love each other and do not notice the shortcomings. The results surprised even the researchers themselves. It turns out that a strong love really blinds people. Their brains lose the ability to objectively assess the surrounding reality. In the brain of a lover there are certain changes affecting systems that are responsible for emotional perception of various stimuli. In this case, the sensitivity threshold of the brain regions responsible for euphoria decreases. In simple language: a man in love sees everything through the prism of rose-colored glasses, reacts emotionally to all the positive moments of his life and does not notice any negativity.
The negative side of blind love or why is love evil?
Love is blind. If you really love, it does not matter what a person looks like, how he lives, what he does, what impression he makes on others. Next to this person you feel the happiest in the world. So it should be, you need to love the person himself, and not his appearance, position or money. But…
Unfortunately, it happens that blind love throws a woman into a pool of problems and misfortunes. She loves a person who does not appreciate her and humiliates her. She is ready to endure all this for her love. Such a woman needs outside assistance, since she herself can not cope with it. Otherwise, it may become a victim of physical or psychological violence.
It happens that falling in love, the girl closes her eyes to the inappropriate behavior of the partner, later gets used to such an attitude, and when there is absolutely no urine to endure - he lives with him out of fear. This is fundamentally the wrong approach. The longer you live with such a person, the more difficult it will be to get rid of it.
Love - a thing evil only for those who lose her head. In any situation you need to maintain self-control and self-esteem. You can not rush into a whirlpool with your head, especially if a person does not. If you see that he does not appreciate you, humiliates and just uses, run away from him.
So how can we, the girls, not to fall in love with that goat himself?
Look around, perhaps there is a person next to you who deserves your attention, who will love you, cherish and cherish. Develop, know your own worth and do not let anyone break your life. If the overwhelming feeling has already covered you, and you are not able to adequately assess the situation, then listen to the advice of your family and friends. Often, it is from the side who knows who your choice is actually. They will not only remove your pink glasses from you, but they will also help you escape from the captivity of destructive love.