Refuseniks ... One of the most sad problems of modern society. The eyes of abandoned babies are infinitely sad, after all, parents felt that raising and caring for them would be a big burden in life.
Why are children abandoned?
It is believed that children are flowers of life. But the view of some people is directly opposite: for them caring for a child becomes an unbearable burden. Why does it come out this way? What makes the parents commit such an unseemly act and leave the child in the care of the state? Most often, an unwanted child is born in an unfavorable family, in which the husband and wife are going about their vices, that is, they drink or use drugs. Naturally, they do not have enough time to engage in their children.
Quite often, mothers abandon children if they discover a serious pathology in their physical, mental development or a defect in appearance. Such babies need special care, expensive treatment, all free time. Not every woman will decide on practically dedicating her life to caring for a disabled child or an incomplete child, patients with cerebral palsy, Down's syndrome, serious heart disease, etc.
So it is not unusual for a woman to give birth and abandon an infant in an orphanage because of the uncertainty that she will be able to ensure a normal existence for both of them. Especially if at first the daddy threw the child and support from him not to wait. State support for new mothers is lacking.
Quite often abandoned children in the maternity home appear in orphanages due to the fact that they are not welcome and interfere with their mother. So, school children refuse from children at the insistence of their parents, who have all their lives ahead of them, accidentally "flown" single women who want to arrange a personal life. Sometimes mothers can not raise children because of their serious illness.
The fate of abandoned children
It is unlikely that there will be a person in our country who wants to be educated not in his own, but in a children's home. The society knows the difficult living conditions of children abandoned by parents: life on schedule at the shelter, cruel treatment and drill of educators, often malnutrition and bad clothes. Such kids grow up pissed at the whole world. And the reason for this lies not only in the soulless situation of the orphanage. These children are angry, in the first place, the mother, who were not needed.
Not all children have smiled luck in the form of adoption or adoption by adequate parents who can melt the ice in the child's heart. Unfortunately, most often they try to take abandoned infants to grow and educate them from birth.
In the future, such an emotional state prevents a matured orphanage from building a family. Moreover, children abandoned by infants do not know what it is, because they have never seen an example.
Adolescents who abandoned the orphanage have difficulty adapting to an independent adult life, mainly because of lack of incentive, because they were encouraged to act (study, work) from under the "stick".
According to statistics, few managed to get a job in life. Most of the immigrants from orphanages commit crimes, become alcoholics or commit suicide. Growing up abandoned children often lead a beggarly image life. The square meters promised by the state because of frauds do not always go to those who were intended by law. And often the property is transferred in a depressing state. Only a few former orphanage children can get a job and live normally - no more than 10%.
Such gloomy pictures of the life of abandoned children, perhaps, will spodvignut you to commit a good deed. Of course, this is not a call to adopt a child. But you can help children not to be hardened by the soul. It is not necessary to wear food or clothing. Just give them your warmth!